Not many can remember the things that they dreamt about the night before, but what stands out that I have experienced is I remember dreams of loved ones, those that have passed that have left me very detailed messages in my sleep.
The thing that excites me the most when I get these dreams is that loved ones can reach us when we are only in the REM part of sleep. REM sleep makes up about 25% of your sleep cycle and first occurs about 70 to 90 minutes after you fall asleep. It’s not even the deepest sleep we are in that we are given opportunity to speak to the ones we love.
I can recount a few very specific dreams that I had, but one stands out the most. This dream I had was about a year ago. My grandfather on my dad’s side who had passed away back in 1986 felt he needed to clear the air from past and tell me something specifically. You may think, wow that is great, but what is the big deal? Loved ones come into our dreams all the time. The big deal is that for as long as I can remember my grandparents did not get along well with my mother. They blamed her for marrying my dad too young. They felt she held him back from bigger things. My parents were high school sweethearts.
They are still together after 56 years. ☺ Every holiday we went to visit our grandparents along with our aunts, uncles and cousins. The problem was that they treated their other grandkids differently. While they were given presents for Christmas as children, we were given a card with money. So we had to sit and watch them all play with their toys not having any of our own. In all of the chaos I always remember my grandpa sitting way across the room in his chair with his parrot on his shoulder. He would smile at me and wink.
I never was allowed to get close to him or my grandmother because of the resentment that was always there standing in the way of my parents and my grandparents. So a few months ago I was so amazingly surprised when my grandpa visited me in my dream and revealed to me how much he really did love me and wished that he could have been closer to me. In this dream were all my cousins and my siblings as well as my dad. My grandpa was sitting in his chair and we all sat in a circle in folding chairs. In this dream he spoke to each and every one of us, but to me specifically.
My grandpa told me how proud he was of my life choices and my work. He was proud of the woman I had become. My grandpa reminded me how he used to smile and wink across the room at me because he felt that was as close as he could get with the situation. So in this dream when he left with a smile and a wink, it touched my heart from years of wondering. I woke up and was excited to share this dream with my dad. When I did it brought tears to his eyes because I had connected to a man he had loved all of his life. My dad got a bit of closure as well for himself and his children. I also was able to share with some of my cousins and siblings the words he spoke about them in that dream.
Dreams are such a powerful way for us to connect to our loved ones. Sometimes it’s necessary to hear from them. The exciting thing is they come in our dreams when we need them most. Dreams can be healing and also bring much needed peace to our lives. I am curious if anyone has had a dream from a loved one specifically aimed at connecting with you? Has this dream changed the way you looked at someone? I would love to hear about them and maybe help you to understand them.