Have you ever met someone who romantically knocked you off your feet as in. Hey! you are never going to believe this, but I just met the man of my dreams!
Then a few months later, your conversation changed to, I can’t believe he turned out to be such a jerk, and with commitment issues. And you blame yourself! Its not you. But it is your choice.
Very easy for us to become addicted and intoxicated to the feeling of love that we have within us and we project onto the person that we are dating. They can display just a few tiny signs that make us believe, because we really want to believe, that they are the one and only. Just like layers of an onion. We to have layers of our personality. We want to get to know the other on a deeper layer but this takes time and it is not revealed in a short period.
Many of us become upset and discouraged because we have only been attracted to emotionally unavailable partners. Another name for these people are bad boys, friends with benefits, and those who cannot make plans.Below are some of the things that you can do when you first meet someone, that you feel chemistry with, to make sure that it is not just lust and has the potential to lead to love.
10 steps to take to make sure are not emotionally unavailable!
Sit back and wait rather than being the pursuer
Sexually Fast. Beware of a person who wants to become sexually familiar quickly. Wait 10 dates.
Increase your self confidence- by not chasing others around
Learn to be more independent when it comes to relationships
Learn to give another the space to long for you
Learn how to sit on your impulses
Building A Support System; have your own friends so you partner is not your life
Check with yourself, are the feelings that you have from actions he/she has done or chemistry
Meet their friends
BONUS-And ask me, get his birth date and I can do a detailed personality test.
We connect with people to heal and to learn what love is. Every single relationship will have its challenges but you don’t want somebody who does not want to expand and grow and learn once in a relationship.
Often relationships have problems because of lack of communication you communicate much different than I do and vice versa if you can understand the other person’s motives their personality traits and how they communicate you can often avoid misunderstandings and not taking things personally. I can also help you learn from past lovers.